No matter how driven and passionate you are at work, you are bound to experience disappointment and skepticism as much as you do satisfaction and joy. Adversity is inevitable and it is easy to dwell on mistakes. However, it is certainly possible and in fact important to be reflexive and embrace every experience positively as a lesson on how to improve in the future. If, however, pessimism still lingers, then one should conscientiously challenge these sentiments. According to MERCURY, it is necessary for one to actively shift one’s mindset and conscientiously practise positive thinking in one’s everyday life. Below are some ways to do so:
1. Create Daily Positive Set Points
People who practice positive thoughts every day are the people who bring positivity into their life. Obviously there are going to be negative thoughts as well, but getting into a rhythm of positive thinking can help you set a tone for each day. There are many things you can do during your days that make you feel optimistic about life, so include them in your everyday practice to help consistently bring yourself back up to a positive energy.
For instance, go for a walk every morning in a place that makes you feel good. You will find yourself looking forward to this act as you go to bed or wake up, and the walk will set a positive tone for the morning. In short, your morning walk will be a positive set point where you rejuvenate and bring yourself back into a high energy – even if you’ve had a bad night or sleep that had your energy feeling low.
2. Putting Things Into Perspective
When you make a mountain out of a molehill your thoughts will go off on a negative tangent, but when you keep things in perspective, you will have a much easier time maintaining positive thoughts. How do you know if it is a molehill or a mountain? Ask yourself the following questions.
If I choose a positive reaction, will this still impact my whole day negatively?
Will this matter in a year from now?
Will this make my entire life worse?
Is there something I can do to tackle this quickly and effectively?
By asking yourself these questions, you are giving your mind a new perspective towards the situation, and you will find that almost everything will feel small when you reflect on how much it really impacts your entire life and how easy it is to tackle.
3. Recognizing and Acknowledging Your Own Value
You were born for a reason, and many people think that it was to impact the world with your unique talents and insights. You are not just here to ‘make it through’ life. You are here to overcome, succeed, and make a difference! You may make a difference in a few people’s lives or you may have a major impact over the entire world. It all matters. You contribution matters to the overall energy of the planet. Recognize that and you will recognize your value, which means you will instantly have more positive thoughts throughout your day.
4. Be Firm and Honest with Yourself
A lot of time is spent thinking over requests or proposals that you are not sure about. That encourages fear, unease, and other negative emotions to hang around. Moreover, when you do something that you know is bad for you, negative thoughts stick around during and after that event. But, when you make a decision quickly, you can get on with your day and focus on positive thoughts. Say yes quickly to things that sound like they will benefit your life.
That may be a work task, an invitation to hang out with some friends, or a new opportunity to make some money. If it excites you even a little, and you think you will benefit from it, then go for it! Say no quickly to things that sound like they will detract from your life. That may be an invitation to hang out with someone you don’t like or a request to do something at work that will not contribute to your success. If it doesn’t feel good, and you know it won’t benefit your life in any way, say no.
5. Rationalizing Negative Influences
Other people can have a huge influence over the way you think and feel about yourself and your life. You need to ask yourself when they are trying to bring you down and identify elements of toxicity in your social life.
For instance, your friend may make you feel bad about your desire to switch careers. He may tell you that this is a bad time to do it and you are putting yourself at too much risk. But you need to ask yourself if he is coming from experience or from somewhere else. If he is coming from somewhere else, then he is speaking from within the boundaries of his limitations. He doesn’t think that a career change would work for HIM and he is projecting his own fears and concerns on you.
When you see that other people’s suggestions, opinions, and advice is usually from their own personal comfort zone and fear, you will be able to see how little it applies to you and think much more positively about your own desires and way of life.
This post was originally published here on IlaneLanzen.com in November 2015. TheYoungProfessionalGroup.com takes no credit for the work of the author.